Yuav ua li cas rau tus menyuam yaus los ntawm kev quaj vim yog vim li cas? Psychology ntawm thaum yau

2024 Tus sau: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2024-02-18 01:27

Txoj kev xav ntawm tus menyuam tuaj yeem ua rau lub siab ntawm tag nrho tsev neeg. Koj tau npaj taug kev nthuav dav, thiab koj tus tub lossis tus ntxhais, es tsis txhob muaj kev zoo siab, thab koj nrog whining? Sim ua kom nyob twj ywm thiab tsis txhob cog lus. Yuav kom nkag siab tias yuav ua li cas rau tus menyuam yaus los ntawm kev ntxhi, nws yog qhov tsim nyog los tsim kom muaj qhov laj thawj rau tus cwj pwm no.

tus cwj pwm phem xav tau kev saib xyuas

Feem ntau, koj yuav xav tsis thoob, tab sis feem ntau, cov niam txiv yuav tsum liam rau tus menyuam tus cwj pwm phem. Nrog lawv whining thiab whining, cov me nyuam feem ntau nrhiav kev mloog. Txawm hais tias qhov no tsis yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws cov tshuaj tiv thaiv, tus me nyuam yuav tsum flattered los ntawm qhov tseeb ntawm kev txaus siab rau nws tus neeg. Puas yog tus menyuam yws yws thiab ua rau tsis muaj laj thawj, thiab zoo li koj tias nws "tsis paub nws xav tau dab tsi"? Feem ntau, qhov laj thawj ntawm tus cwj pwm no yog qhov tseeb ntawm cov niam txiv tsis saib xyuas. Raws li cov neeg laus, peb feem ntau cuam tshuam nrog peb tus kheej kev txhawj xeeb thiab teeb meem. Sim ua kom txaus siab npaum li cas koj siv sijhawm nrog koj tus menyuam. Nws yog hais txog lub sijhawm ntawdthaum cov niam txiv mob siab rau kev sib txuas lus nrog tus menyuam. Tej zaum koj yuav tsum rov xav txog qee yam ntawm koj qhov kev xav txog kev yug me nyuam, thiab tom qab ntawd tantrums thiab whining yuav nyob rau yav dhau los?

Qhia ua ib qho cim ntawm kev qaug zog

Kev mus ncig ua si ntev lossis ncua sijhawm nyob ntawm qhov kev tshwm sim tho txawv - dab tsi tuaj yeem ua rau tus me nyuam xav txog? Thiab tam sim no, sai sai no, koj tus ntxhais muaj rau xyoo tau coj zoo li ib tug ntxhais me heev. Nws txias thiab kub tib lub sijhawm, nws xav haus thiab pw. "Tab sis kuv tus me nyuam tsis yog whiner kiag li, ua li cas rau nws?" - Koj yuav xav tsis thoob. Qhov tseeb, txhua yam yog yooj yim - nws tau overtired. Yuav ua li cas kom pub ib tug me nyuam los ntawm whining nyob rau hauv pej xeem qhov chaw? Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tsum tsis txhob tso cai rau kev ua haujlwm ntau dhau, nws ua rau muaj kev phom sij rau menyuam yaus lub paj hlwb. Yog tias koj tsev neeg muaj hnub tsis khoom ua ntej, sim xav ua ntej txog kev npaj so. Hloov cov dej num yuav pab kom koj tus menyuam nyob rau hauv lub siab zoo. Tom qab taug kev ntev nws yog qhov zoo dua los zaum hauv lub tsev noj mov, tom qab saib kev ua yeeb yam nws yog qhov txaus nyiam mus taug kev. Thiab, qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws, nyob rau hnub tsis khoom no, tsis txhob hnov qab xav txog kev noj qab haus huv ntawm tus menyuam ib ntus thiab nug seb nws puas xav tau ib yam dab tsi.

Tus me nyuam tsis tu ncua thiab xav tau

Nyob rau hauv ib co tsev neeg, sobs thiab hysterical thov tau hnov ib ncig ntawm lub moos. Tus menyuam thov khoom qab zib, khoom ua si, thiab tom qab ntawd, nrog kev quaj qw, ua pov thawj tias nws tsis xav tau thiab yuav tsis ua ib yam dab tsi. Puas yog, tus menyuam puas muaj tus cwj pwm phem li ntawd? Yog ibtus me nyuam tsis tu ncua whines, qhia nws lub siab xav ua tiav ib yam dab tsi, feem ntau yuav, nws ntseeg tias qhov kev tawm tsam no yuav pab tau nws. Txhua tus menyuam yaus sim lawv niam lawv txiv lub zog. Rov qab thov, whining, defiant disobedience - qhov no tsuas yog ib feem me me ntawm lub arsenal uas cov me nyuam sim cov hlab ntsha ntawm cov neeg laus. Tab sis yog tias nws yog tantrums thiab whimpers uas dhau los ua cov cuab yeej nyiam ntawm ib tus menyuam yaus, xav txog nws, tej zaum nws yuav lwj? Yog tias koj tsawg kawg ib zaug hauv qhov xwm txheej zoo sib xws tau ua tiav qhov kev xav tau ntawm tus menyuam, nws yuav nco ntsoov qhov kev paub zoo li no. Yuav ua li cas wean ib tug me nyuam rau whine nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no? Ua siab ntev thiab npaj siab kom tshem tau tus cwj pwm phem yuav siv sij hawm me ntsis.

Yuav ua li cas rov qhia tus menyuam uas ua phem?

Tsis txhob tso "ib zaug" yam uas ib txwm txwv. Nrog rau kev txhawb nqa kev ywj pheej zoo li no, lwm zaus nws yuav nyuaj rau tus menyuam kom nkag siab tias yog vim li cas nws raug cem rau qee yam uas tau tso cai ua ntej. Yog hais tias whining thiab whining tau txhawb los ntawm kev txaus siab ntawm tus me nyuam lub siab nyiam, kev txiav nws los ntawm tus cwj pwm zoo li no yuav tsis yooj yim. Pib nrog kev sib tham loj. Nco ntsoov koj tus tub lossis tus ntxhais tias koj ib txwm npaj mloog thiab sib tham txog ib qho ntawm lawv qhov kev thov thiab kev ntshaw, tab sis tsuas yog nyob ntawm qhov xwm txheej uas lawv tau hais hauv lub suab nrov. Kev vam meej ntawm qhov kev sib tham no feem ntau cuam tshuam los ntawm lub hnub nyoog ntawm tus menyuam. Nws tsis yog qhov nyuaj rau kev pom zoo nrog cov menyuam kawm preschool laus dua peb lossis plaub xyoos. Nws tsuas yog tsim nyog los qhia ua siab ntev me ntsis thiab ceeb toom rau tus menyuam ntawm daim ntawv cog lus xaus yog tias tsim nyog. Cov niam txiv yuav tsum coj li cas thaumpuas tau pib? Muaj cov pov thawj uas yuav tsum tsis txhob quaj thiab thov.

Kuv tsis hnov lub suab quaj

Yuav ua li cas, tus menyuam qw qw, qw thiab qw?! Tus cwj pwm zoo li no tuaj yeem chim siab lossis npau taws rau niam txiv. Nyob twj ywm rau sab nraud. Mus cuag tus me nyuam thiab hais tias koj yuav tsis tham nrog nws thiab mloog nws kom txog thaum nws calms down. Tom qab ntawd, koj yuav tsum ua txuj tias koj yeej tsis hnov dua quaj lossis qw. Qee leej niam txawm hais tawm tsam lawv lub mloog pob ntseg lossis mus rau lwm chav. Npaj rau qhov tseeb tias tus menyuam yuav tsis kaw tam sim ntawd. Tsis tas li ntawd, tus cwj pwm zoo li no ntawm leej niam tuaj yeem ua rau nws hnyav dua lossis ua rau nws ua phem rau nws. Tab sis ntseeg kuv, sai sai no koj yuav pom tias tantrums tau dhau los ua ntau dua. Yog hais tias tom qab tus me nyuam txias lawm, nws tsis tuaj ua ntej, nws tsim nyog nug nws seb nws xav nug.

Ib txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj plaws kom txo qis tus me nyuam los ntawm kev ntxhi rau ib qho laj thawj yog kawm kom hloov nws txoj kev xav sai. Tus niam txoj hauj lwm yog kom ntes thawj whining intonations nyob rau hauv tus me nyuam lub suab thiab tam sim ntawd muab nws ib co nthuav kev ua si los yog kev ua si. Cov txheej txheem no ua haujlwm hauv yuav luag txhua qhov xwm txheej. Txawm hais tias tus me nyuam pib quaj, nws txaus los hais lossis qhia nws ib yam dab tsi txawv txawv thiab tsis xav txog. Qhov no yog ib qho kev cawmdim tiag tiag tawm tsam whims thiab tantrums ntawm txoj kev lossis hauv txhua qhov chaw pej xeem. Puas yog tus menyuam yaus ntxhi rau lub sijhawm tsis zoo tshaj plaws? Muab saib ib tug noog los yog lub tsheb hla, nyob rau hauv lub khw, xyuam xim rauqhov rais kho kom zoo nkauj. Kev puas siab puas ntsws ntawm menyuam yaus yog qhov kev nqhis dej rau kev paub thiab xav paub nyob hauv txhua lub siab. Koj tuaj yeem nres whining los ntawm tsuas yog hais ib yam dab tsi uas tsis tau xav txog uas yuav npau taws rau tus menyuam. Tus me nyuam nug mus yuav ib qho khoom ua si tshiab, chob lub kua muag? Nug seb nws puas hloov siab xav mus taug kev niaj hnub no? Cov menyuam yaus feem ntau, tau hnov cov lus nug uas xav tsis thoob, tau ploj mus. Feem ntau tus me nyuam pib ua pov thawj tias nws niam nkag siab nws yuam kev, thiab nws tsis tau txhais hais tias nws tag nrho.

piv txwv zoo

Role-playing games tau txaus siab los ntawm txhua tus menyuam kawm ntawv preschool. Feem ntau, cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog qis dua 7 xyoos, txhob txwm los yog tsis nco qab, siv zog ua zoo li cov dab neeg uas lawv nyiam. Yog li ntawd, vim li cas ho tsis nco qab tus me nyuam uas lwj ntawm qhov yuav tsum tau siv zog rau qhov zoo tagnrho xaiv? Txhua tus ntxhais npau suav ntawm kev ua ib tug ntxhais huabtais, tab sis tus ntxhais huabtais tiag tiag quaj? Thiab cov knights siab tawv thiab superheroes uas koj tus tub nyiam heev? Saib cov piv txwv ntawm cov cim tsis sib haum xeeb thiab coj zoo hauv cov duab tas luav thiab cov phau ntawv. Thaum saib thiab nyeem ntawv, kos tus me nyuam txoj kev xav txog qhov zoo ntawm cov cim. Sib tham txog cov xwm txheej uas tshwm sim hauv zaj dab neeg tej yam yees siv thiab qhuas cov cim tseem ceeb rau lawv txoj kev ua siab ntev thiab kev ua siab ntev.

Saib koj

Koj tuaj yeem cuam tshuam tus menyuam los ntawm kev ntxhov siab los ntawm kev qhia nws tus cwj pwm zoo li cas los ntawm sab nraud. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam tau whimpering rau qee lub sij hawm, koj tuaj yeem coj nws mus rau daim iav. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws, ua kom lub suab nrov ntawm lub suab thiab tsis txhob hais lus ntau dhau. Lub plhu plhu, kua muag-stained o ntsej muag,nqaim ob lub qhov muag thiab tousled plaub hau - qhov no yog dab tsi feem ntau cov me nyuam zoo li thaum whims. Nug koj tus menyuam seb nws tus kheej puas nyiam qhov zoo li no. Feem ntau, tib lub sijhawm tus menyuam yuav tsum tsis txhob quaj. Ua kom zoo dua ntawm qhov kev ncua no thiab caw tus me nyuam quaj mus ntxuav thiab zuaj nws cov plaub hau. Yuav ua li cas wean ib tug me nyuam mus quaj rau ib qho laj thawj thiab tsis muaj? Thaum saib cov duab tas luav lossis nyeem cov dab neeg, xyuam xim rau cov cim uas coj li no. Qhia rau koj tus menyuam tias tus cwj pwm no tsis tsim nyog, thiab txawm tias cov cim hauv phau ntawv tuaj yeem ua siab ntev thiab zoo.

Tseem txwv cov kab lus thiab cov tswv yim

Yuav zais dab tsi, menyuam yaus lub suab quaj thiab tantrums tuaj yeem cuam tshuam leej twg. Qhov yooj yim tshaj plaws thiab qhov tseeb tshaj plaws hauv qhov xwm txheej zoo li thuam tus menyuam yaus thiab ceeb toom nws tias nws yog qhov tsis ncaj ncees thiab tsis lees txais kev coj tus cwj pwm li no. Sim tsis txhob ua li ntawd. Yog tias koj xav nkag siab tiag tiag yuav ua li cas rau tus me nyuam los ntawm kev ntxhib los mos, koj yuav tsum tau ua kom ceev faj. Txawm li cas los xij, tsis txhob cem tus menyuam, tsis txhob thuam nws thiab tsis txhob ua piv txwv ntawm cov phooj ywg zoo. Cov tswv yim zoo li no yuav tsis ua rau muaj kev vam meej, tab sis nws tuaj yeem ua rau tus menyuam raug mob. Ua tib zoo mloog cov lus qhia zoo li: "cov ntxhais zoo tsis coj zoo li ntawd" lossis "cov txiv neej tiag tiag tsis quaj." Koj txoj hauj lwm yog maj mam muab tus me nyuam los ntawm tus cwj pwm tsis tsim nyog, maj mam cuam tshuam nws thaum lub sij hawm tantrums thiab qhia tias tsis muaj dab tsi yuav ua tiav los ntawm kev ntxhi.

Yuav ua li cas yog tus menyuam yaus hnub nyoog qis dua peb xyoos pheej yws?

Txhua cov lus qhia saum toj no yuav pab koj daws qhov kev ntxhov siab hauv cov menyuam kawm ntawv preschool uas sib tham. Thiab yuav ua li cas yog tias tus me nyuam whines, leej twg tseem tsis tau muaj peb xyoos? Lub hnub nyoog ntawm tus menyuam no yog tus cwj pwm los ntawm qhov muaj siab xav sib txuas lus, ua ke nrog qhov tsis muaj peev xwm qhia lawv cov kev xav hauv cov lus, kab lus. Cov menyuam yaus tsuas yog kawm hais lus thiab xav kom nyob twj ywm hauv qhov tsom teeb. Kev nkag siab yuam kev lossis tsis quav ntsej tuaj yeem ua rau tus menyuam chim siab heev. Yuav coj li cas nrog me ntsis whiner kom raug? Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob tso tseg tag nrho koj tej xwm txheej thiab tam sim ntawd khiav mus rau tus me nyuam sai li sai tau thaum nws whimpered. Tab sis xws li hysterics tsis tuaj yeem tsis quav ntsej ib yam. Lawv qhov ua rau feem ntau yog nyob rau hauv qhov tsis muaj kev saib xyuas lossis kev xav tau ntawm lub cev. Yog tias tus menyuam quaj, nco ntsoov tias nws tsis yog lub sijhawm hloov khaub ncaws lossis nws tsis xav noj. Yog daim pawm qhuav lawm thiab tus me nyuam noj tsis ntev los no ces yog lub caij ua si nrog niam!