Yuav ua li cas nrog menyuam tham kom raug

2024 Tus sau: Priscilla Miln | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2024-02-18 01:33

Psychologists thiab educators tau pom ntev lawm tias ntau thiab ntau cov me nyuam yog

tawm ntawm kev tswj hwm. Tsis tsuas yog lawv tsis mloog lus thiab ua si pranks, tab sis lawv tsuas tsis hnov cov neeg laus qhia lawv. Thiab qhov kev liam rau qhov no feem ntau yog nrog cov niam txiv lawv tus kheej. Yog li ntawd, txhua leej txiv thiab leej niam yuav tsum paub sib txuas lus nrog me nyuam.

Cov niam txiv feem ntau ua yuam kev hauv kev sib txuas lus nrog lawv tus menyuam vim ntau yam:

1. Lawv ntseeg hais tias lawv yuav tsum qhia nws, thiab kev qhuab qhia yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws. Yog li ntawd, lawv nyeem ntau cov ntawv sau thiab kev coj ncaj ncees, tab sis lawv tsuas tsis muaj sij hawm los tham hauv siab.

2. Ntxub tus me nyuam, lawv ua pauj rau nws rau lawv txoj kev ua tsis tiav thiab teeb meem hauv lub neej.

3. Cov niam txiv ntseeg tias txij li thaum lawv tus kheej raug coj los ua li no, ces qhov no yog qhov lawv yuav tsum coj tus menyuam. Tom qab tag nrho, tsis muaj leej twg qhia lawv yuav ua li cas sib txuas lus nrog me nyuam kom raug.

Qhov tshwm sim ntawm kev sib txuas lus no feem ntau tsis nyiam tsis yog los ntawm cov menyuam yaus xwb, tab sis kuj yog cov niam txiv lawv tus kheej. Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, tus menyuam tsuas nres tsis pom lawv, tsis mloog lawv hais. Thaum hluas, cov menyuam yaus no ua phem rau cov neeg laus, coj cwj pwm nruj. Xws li ibtsis yog txhua tus niam txiv paub sib txuas lus nrog tus menyuam kom raug.

Psychologists ntseeg tias qhov no lawv yuav tsum ua raws li ob peb txoj cai.

Txoj Cai Ib: Tsis txhob thuam lossis thuam tus menyuam. Cov menyuam yaus lub siab lub ntsws lees txais tag nrho cov lus ntawm niam thiab txiv, txawm hais lus dag lossis npau taws, rau qhov tseeb. Yog cov niam txiv feem ntau qhia lawv tus menyuam tias nws phem, ruam, rog lossis ruam, qhov no yuav tsis yog ua rau nws tus kheej qis, tab sis tseem yuav ua rau tus menyuam tsis mloog lawv.

Txoj cai thib ob: tsis txhob muab koj tus menyuam piv rau lwm tus thiab tsis txhob hais tias tus tub ntawm lub tsev zoo dua nws. Tus me nyuam yuav tsum paub tias nws hlub leej twg, thiab tsis yog vim nws zoo lossis zoo nkauj. Qhia koj tus menyuam kom ntau zaus tias koj hlub nws npaum li cas thiab koj xav tau nws npaum li cas.

3 txoj cai: yog tus me nyuam ua yuam kev los yog ua ib yam dab tsi tsis ncaj ncees lawm, tsis txhob tham txog nws, tab sis tsuas yog nws ua. Thiab nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv koj yuav tsum generalize: "koj ib txwm lig", "koj ua txhua yam phem dua", "nws yog tag nrho vim koj". Cov kab lus zoo li no, cuam tshuam los ntawm cov niam txiv hauv npau taws, tuaj yeem cuam tshuam tag nrho lawv txoj kev nkag siab ntawm tus menyuam. Yog li ntawd, kev paub kev sib txuas lus nrog me nyuam yuav pab kom tsis txhob muaj teeb meem ntau.

Txoj Cai plaub: tsis txhob thov los ntawm tus menyuam yam nws ua tsis tau vim nws muaj hnub nyoog, tsis muaj kev paub lossis kev paub dhau los. Tom qab tag nrho, cov menyuam yaus tsuas yog ua tau raws li cov neeg laus tau qhia lawv, thiab koj tsis tuaj yeem thuam lawv vim lawv tsis muaj peev xwm, txwv tsis pub lawv tsuas yogzam tej hauj lwm ntawd, ces niam txiv.

Rule tsib: tus me nyuam yog tib neeg ib yam li koj. Nws xav tau kev sib raug zoo ntawm tib neeg. Tsis txhob ntshai qhia nws ncaj qha tias ib yam dab tsi thab koj, ib yam dab tsi ua rau koj, lossis koj tsis txaus siab rau ib yam dab tsi. Ib txwm, yog koj ua yuam kev, koj yuav tsum thov tus me nyuam zam txim. Tsis txhob txhawj tias nws yuav tsis nkag siab koj, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, nws yuav tso siab rau koj ntau dua.

Psychologists, piav qhia rau niam txiv hais txog kev sib txuas lus nrog cov menyuam yaus, hais tias tus menyuam lub siab lub ntsws muaj zog heev, yog li koj yuav tsum ua tib zoo saib xyuas koj cov lus. Feem ntau, qhov kev ntsuam xyuas tsis raug lossis kev iab liam ua rau menyuam yaus ua phem heev. Psychologists kuj ntseeg tias nws tsis yooj yim sua kom tham ntau thaum sib tham nrog tus menyuam. Cov neeg laus siv los

kev sib tham siv ntau qhov kev sib piv, kev hais lus thiab kev sib tham. Tab sis cov me nyuam, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog cov me, coj cov lus no rau qhov tseeb.

Kuv xav ntseeg tias tsis ntev txhua tsev neeg yuav hais tau tias: "Peb tab tom kawm sib txuas lus nrog tus menyuam kom raug." Hauv qhov no, yuav muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb tsawg, cov menyuam yaus tsis zoo siab thiab tua tus kheej ntawm cov hluas. Cov niam txiv, kawm mloog koj tus menyuam hais, ces nws yuav hnov koj!