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Txhua tus niam txiv paub txog tus menyuam tantrums: qee tus saib nws tsawg dua, lwm tus ntau dua. Tus cwj pwm zoo li no ntawm tus menyuam yog qhov kev sim tiag tiag rau niam, txiv, yawg. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias qhov kev txaj muag tshwm sim nyob rau hauv ib qho chaw pej xeem, thiab tib neeg yuav tsum tau saib daim duab tsis kaj siab no. Tab sis qhov tseeb, feem ntau muaj tantrums nyob rau hauv ib tug me nyuam. 2 xyoos yog qhov hloov pauv.
Lub hnub nyoog ntawm ib mus rau peb xyoos yog qhov sib txawv ntawm qhov kev hloov pauv loj hauv lub neej ntawm tus menyuam: nws tau txais kev paub tshiab, kawm hais lus, nkag siab txhua yam thiab paub ua ntau yam. Txawm li cas los xij, txawm li cas los xij, qee yam tseem nyob tsis tau rau tus menyuam, thiab nws tsis tuaj yeem ua rau nws tus kheej. Yog li ntawd, txhua qhov kev tsis lees paub yog pom tau zoo heev thiab mob siab heev, thiab tus menyuam yaus qhia kev xav los ntawm kev npau taws.
Lub sijhawm no, tus menyuam tuaj yeem ua siab tawv dhau thiab ua txhua yam nyob ib puag ncig, thiab nws tus cwj pwm tsuas yog tsis paub: los ntawm tus menyuam mloog lus thiab ua siab zoo, nws hloov mus ua kev quaj ntsuag.
Tantrums yog ib theem ntawm tus me nyuam txoj kev loj hlob
Qhov no yog qhov xaus los ntawm tus kws kho mob menyuam yaus. Cov menyuam yaus kawm tswj tus kheej, tab sis thaum muaj hnub nyoog 2 xyoos nws nyuaj rau tus menyuam los tswj nws txoj kev npau taws thiab kev ua phem, thiab lawv tseem tsis tuaj yeem qhia kev xav hauv cov lus. Tom qab peb xyoos, thaum tus me nyuam kawm qhia nws txoj kev xav hais lus, tantrums yuav tsum poob.
Qee zaum cov niam txiv yws tias tus me nyuam tsis zoo thiab ua kev thuam tsuas yog nyob ntawm niam txiv. Qhov no tej zaum yuav yog vim tus me nyuam tab tom sim thaj tsam ntawm qhov tso cai, tab sis tib lub sijhawm tsis npaj los qhia nws txoj kev xav rau cov neeg uas nws tsis ntseeg.
Qhov ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab tuaj yeem yog yam me me uas yuav luag tsis tuaj yeem kwv yees. Tab sis cov kws tshawb fawb txog kev puas siab puas ntsws txheeb xyuas ntau yam uas ua rau cov menyuam muaj kev ntxhov siab.
Kev ntxhov siab lossis mob
Ib tug me nyuam yaus tsis tuaj yeem qhia qhov ua rau nws mob. Thiab ntau tshaj li ntawd, nws tsis paub yuav piav qhia rau ib tug neeg laus li cas tias nws xav tsis zoo. Cov niam txiv yuav tsum ceev faj thiab saib xyuas tus menyuam. Cov cim qhia ntawm malaise tej zaum yuav txo qis qab los noj mov, ua kom muaj zog ntau dhau, lossis quaj vim tsis muaj laj thawj.
Ib txwm, tus menyuam muaj mob dhau los ua qhov chaw ntawm tsev neeg, yog li txawm tias tom qab rov zoo los, nws yuav xav tau tib yam. Yog tias cov niam txiv paub tseeb tias tus menyuam mos zoo thiab noj qab nyob zoo, ces cov kev tsim txom no yuav tsum "tso tawm" thiab tsis muab rau hauv.
Struggle rau mloog
Feem ntau, vim niam txiv tsis saib xyuas, kev ntxhov siab tshwm sim hauv tus menyuam. 2 xyoo - nyuajlub sij hawm. Yuav kom daws tau qhov teeb meem, ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, nws yog ib qho tsim nyog los txiav txim siab seb cov kev cai no tsim nyog li cas. Tej zaum cov no tsis yog kev npau suav xwb, thiab tus me nyuam yeej xav tias nws tus kheej raug tsim txom thiab kho siab.
Lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb ntawm cov niam txiv yog nrhiav txoj kab thaum kev txaus siab ntawm kev xav tau xaus thiab kev qia dub pib. Yog hais tias los ntawm kev quaj tus me nyuam tab tom sim nyiam mloog, tab sis cov neeg laus nyob ib sab ntawm nws, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob ua raws li tus thawj coj ntawm tus thawj coj ntawm tus thawj quaj.
Tau qhov koj xav tau
Feem ntau vim qhov tsis tuaj yeem tau txais yam koj xav tau, muaj kev ntxhov siab hauv tus menyuam. 2 xyoos yog lub sijhawm uas tus menyuam xav tau yam nws xav tau los ntawm txhua txoj kev. Nws tuaj yeem yog cov khoom ua si uas koj nyiam lossis tsis kam tawm hauv qhov chaw ua si, lossis lwm yam uas koj yuav tsum tau txais "ntawm no thiab tam sim no."
Kev txwv tsis pub niam txiv tsis meej rau tus menyuam ib txwm, thiab qee lub sijhawm nws nyuaj heev los qhia qhov tseem ceeb rau tus menyuam vim nws hnub nyoog. Tam sim no muaj ntau yam kev ntxias rau nws, uas nws yog incredibly nyuaj rau kev sib ntaus. Yog li ntawd, cov niam txiv yuav tsum tsis txhob ntxias tus menyuam. Nws yog qhov zoo tshaj kom nws tawm ntawm qhov pom ntawm txhua yam khoom nws nyiam, thiab tsis txhob coj nws nrog koj mus rau lub khw nrog menyuam yaus thiab khoom qab zib.
Tsis txhob xav tias tus me nyuam tseem me dhau thiab tsis nkag siab dab tsi. Cov menyuam yaus tantrums yog ib txoj hauv kev los ntsuas qhov txwv ntawm qhov tso cai thiab sim cov niam txiv rau kev ntxhov siab. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tsum ua kom zoo ib yam thiab tsis sib haum xeeb kom tus me nyuam nkag siab tias qhov txwv yuav tsis raug tshem tawm. Kev tsis sib haum xeebkev ua ua rau tus menyuam tsis meej pem thiab txhawb nws kom muaj kev sib tw tshiab rau cov neeg laus.
Koj yuav tsum nrog tus menyuam tham kom sib npaug thiab piav qhia rau nws vim li cas nws lub siab tsis tuaj yeem ua tiav tam sim no. Sij hawm dhau mus, tus me nyuam yuav kawm tias niam txiv "tsis yog" tsis muaj kev sib cav, thiab qhov kev xav hauv qhov no tsis muaj txiaj ntsig.
Kev ua niam ua txiv txoj cai thiab kev lees paub tus kheej ntawm menyuam yaus
Feem ntau, cov menyuam yaus cuam tshuam thaum lawv sim tawm tsam lawv niam lawv txiv. Tej zaum txoj kev tswj hwm kev tswj hwm tsis pub tus me nyuam qhia nws tus kheej, yog li nws tawm tsam. Tsis txhob hnov qab tias menyuam yaus yog tib neeg, thiab lawv xav tau kev ywj pheej ntau npaum li cas.
Txoj kev zoo siab ntawm niam txiv rau tus menyuam ua rau tus menyuam mos ua rau nws tus kheej, tab sis tsis kam rau lwm tus. Qhov tsis muaj kev saib xyuas tas mus li ua rau muaj cua daj cua dub ntawm kev xav tsis zoo hauv tus menyuam, uas pom qhov hluav taws xob hauv hysteria.
Rau cov menyuam yaus kom muaj kev sib haum xeeb, cov neeg laus yuav tsum ua kom muaj kev sib npaug ntawm kev saib xyuas thiab kev ywj pheej. Thaum tus me nyuam paub tseeb tias nws lub tswv yim muaj nuj nqis thiab hwm, nws yuav yooj yim dua rau nws lees txais kev txwv.
Qee lub sij hawm tus me nyuam txoj kev npau taws tshwm sim tsis muaj laj thawj. 2 xyoos yog lub hnub nyoog uas tus menyuam tsis tuaj yeem piav qhia vim li cas nws chim. Kom nkag siab qhov xwm txheej, cov niam txiv yuav tsum txheeb xyuas cov xwm txheej tsis ntev los no. Tej zaum tsev neeg ntxhov siab lossis tus menyuam mos pw tsis txaus. Txhua tus neeg muaj tus cwj pwm txawv thiab tus cwj pwm sib txawv, yog li txhua tus menyuam yaus hnov qab txog qhov tshwm sim.
Yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob tantrums?
Cov niam txiv uas muaj menyuam muaj 2 xyoos paub tias kev thab plaub tsis tuaj yeem zam tau kiag li, tab sis tuaj yeem ua cov kauj ruam kom txo tau qhov tshwm sim.
Cov lus qhia tseem ceeb:
- Tus me nyuam yuav tsum tau pw tsaug zog zoo.
- Yuav tsum ua raws li kev ua haujlwm txhua hnub.
- Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob npaj hnub kom tus menyuam tau txais kev paub tshiab ntau. Yog tias qhov no tsis tuaj yeem zam tau, yuav tsum tau saib xyuas kom ntseeg tau tias muaj qee yam lom zem rau tus menyuam.
- Koj yuav tsum qhia cov me nyuam kom qhia lawv txoj kev xav. Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tsum maj mam qhia lawv yuav ua li cas kom raug, thiab pab lawv xaiv cov lus.
- Yog ua tau, tus menyuam yuav tsum muaj cai xaiv yam tsawg kawg ntawm cov teeb meem uas tsis yog qhov tseem ceeb.
- Txhua yam kev hloov pauv hauv txhua hnub yuav tsum tau ceeb toom ua ntej, piv txwv li, tsib feeb ua ntej noj su, tus menyuam yuav tsum tau ceeb toom tias nws yuav noj sai sai.
Yog txoj kev npau taws twb pib lawm…
Ntau tus niam txiv xav tsis thoob: tus menyuam muaj kev ntxhov siab - yuav ua li cas? Ua ntej tshaj plaws, koj yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias koj tsis tuaj yeem hem tus menyuam nrog kev rau txim yog tias nws yog hysterical. Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no, tus me nyuam yuav sau aggression thiab resentment, uas rhuav tshem nws puas siab puas ntsws noj qab haus huv thiab provoke tshiab scandals. Cov neeg laus yuav tsum coj tus cwj pwm zoo thiab muaj kev ntseeg siab, qhia kev nkag siab. Sij hawm dhau mus, cov menyuam kawm paub tswj lawv tus cwj pwm thiab saib lawv tus cwj pwm.
Tab sis koj yuav tsum tsis txhob cajole thiab txhawb koj tus menyuam hauv txhua txoj hauv kev tsuas yog ua kom nws siab. Qhov no yuav ua rau nws ntseeg siab tiaskoj tuaj yeem coj tus cwj pwm kom tau txais yam koj xav tau. Tsis tas yuav piav ib yam dab tsi rau tus menyuam thaum lub sijhawm qw thiab quaj, nws tsis zoo li nws yuav kawm cov lus hais rau nws. Zoo dua tos kom txog thaum nws calms down.
Yog tias muaj kev ntxhov siab ntau zaus hauv menyuam yaus, Komarovsky qhia cov niam txiv kom kawm hais tias "tsis yog". Qhov kev txiav txim siab tsis tuaj yeem hloov pauv lossis muag muag kom tus menyuam tsis pib tswj cov neeg laus. Kev npam me nyuam txoj kev xav yuav ua rau poob ntawm thaj tsam ntawm qhov tso cai, yog li tus me nyuam yuav nrhiav lawv nrog kev ua siab ntev.
Txog thaum tus me nyuam tsis xis nyob, yuav tsum hais lus ntsiag to, tab sis khov kho. Koj yuav tsum sib cav koj txoj hauj lwm thiab muab cov lus sib cav uas yuav qhia meej rau tus menyuam thaum nws muaj hnub nyoog.
Nrhiav kev sib haum xeeb
Yog tias tus me nyuam sawv los nrog kev ntxhov siab, koj yuav tsum xyuas kom nws pw tsaug zog thiab ntev txaus. Tej zaum koj yuav tsum muab nws pw ua ntej me ntsis. Tab sis tus cwj pwm zoo li no tuaj yeem pom tau vim yog lub paj hlwb zoo siab thiab tus yam ntxwv ntawm tus menyuam. Cov niam txiv tuaj yeem sim ua kom thaum sawv ntxov zoo siab thiab nyob ntsiag to, ua rau tus menyuam txiav txim siab noj pluas tshais: tsis nyiam porridge lossis qab tsev cheese. Qee lub sij hawm kev cuam tshuam ua haujlwm xav tsis thoob, ntxiv rau, tus menyuam kawm sib tham thiab muab rau.
Pom zoo:
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Nws tsis yog zais cia tias txhua tus niam txiv txaus siab xav tau qhov zoo tshaj plaws rau lawv tus menyuam. Thiab, ntawm chav kawm, kom lawv cov menyuam muaj nuj nqis dhau los ua tus ntse tshaj plaws thiab txawj ntse tshaj plaws. Tab sis tsis yog txhua tus neeg laus nkag siab tias lawv muaj txoj cai nkaus xwb - hlub tus menyuam. Feem ntau txoj cai no hloov los ntawm lwm tus - txiav txim siab, txiav txim, yuam, tswj. Qhov tshwm sim yog dab tsi? Tab sis tsuas yog hais tias tus me nyuam loj hlob muaj kev nyuaj siab, tsis muaj kev ruaj ntseg, indecisive, tsis muaj nws tus kheej xav